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Posted by / 07-Dec-2017 20:12

Dating a separated

It would be handy if we could avoid the vulnerability that comes with doing the due diligence and taking appropriate action where needed.

What we forget is that even if a person hasn’t just exited a relationship, aside from knowing our own boundaries (which can rule out certain things that we’ve already made a decision on in advance of), we cannot get all of the answers upfront or have someone tell us what ‘the ending’ will be.

We’re often scared (even if nothing has actually happened yet with a particular person) that we may be letting our last chance or even best chance saloon slip away.

We may be imagining all sorts of problems that may or may not exist or we’re rationalising our own boundaries, values, and even prior experiences of being in one of these situations (so knowing that we may struggle with the emotional consequences) and are thinking along the lines of, ‘Well…

I personally know people who have gotten together while one party was separated, and in one case the wife refused to sign so they had to wait for it to lapse and got married as soon as it did a few years later, and in the other instances where it worked out, there was no faffing about with the divorce, Future Faking etc.

( still married; just saying…) Now before anyone accuses me of picking on men, let me hasten to say that separated women can be just as “challenging” to date as separated men.

Without them realising it, the rules seem to have changed, and for many it’s difficult to approach females. After a period of being settled with someone, you’re thrown on your own again.

Even if you didn’t like what you had, you knew what it was and what to expect.

When a man has truly processed his divorce and moved on, he should be able to speak to it with compassion, kindness, and wisdom.

I get so many emails asking me about whether to date someone who is separated, recently divorced, or even fresh out of a breakup that I wanted to tackle this tricky subject.

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